"My Son is Gay" (Or Not)
So last week was Halloween, and we here at Antitwink would like to nominate for best costume, this little guy! Just five years old, and a big fan of Scooby Doo, he decides that he'd like to dress up as Daphne for Halloween. Mom doesn't balk at the idea, and goes with it, which is amazing. She brings him to his preschool, which is when things take a turn:
And that’s where things went wrong. Two mothers went wide-eyed and made faces as if they smelled decomp. And I realize that my son is seeing the same thing I am. So I say, “Doesn’t he look great?” And Mom A says in disgust, “Did he ask to be that?!” I say that he sure did as Halloween is the time of year that you can be whatever it is that you want to be. They continue with their nosy, probing questions as to how that was an option and didn’t I try to talk him out of it. Mom B mostly just stood there in shock and dismay.
And then Mom C approaches. She had been in the main room, saw us walk in, and followed us down the hall to let me know her thoughts. And they were that I should never have ‘allowed’ this and thank God it wasn’t next year when he was in Kindergarten since I would have had to put my foot down and ‘forbidden’ it. To which I calmly replied that I would do no such thing and couldn’t imagine what she was talking about. She continued on and on about how mean children could be and how he would be ridiculed.
My response to that: The only people that seem to have a problem with it is their mothers.
Another mom pointed out that high schools often have Spirit Days where girls dress like boys and vice versa. I mentioned Powderpuff Games where football players dress like cheerleaders and vice versa. Or every frat boy ever in college (Mom A said that her husband was a frat boy and NEVER dressed like a woman.)
But here’s the point, it is none of your damn business.
If you think that me allowing my son to be a female character for Halloween is somehow going to ‘make’ him gay then you are an idiot. Firstly, what a ridiculous concept. Secondly, if my son is gay, OK. I will love him no less. Thirdly, I am not worried that your son will grow up to be an actual ninja so back off.
Mom did an amazing job standing her ground, and wrote the blog piece to explain why she encouraged him, and has won over many people online for her openness.
The story doesn't end there though!
According to AfterElton.com the story makes National news, and winds up on CNN! They bring out a so-called "expert", a clinical psychologist who tells the viewers that "It is the worst nightmare of heterosexual and gay couples to have to fathom that their child might be gay." Really, queen? The mother admirably stands her ground, and whether her son does grow up to be gay, we applaud the fact that she taught him, at such a young age, the importance of being yourself.
On behalf of the sons and daughters who did grow up to be gay, we'd like to thank this mom for encouraging her son to be whatever he wants to be, especially on Halloween!
(via nerdyapplebottom)
